Today is the last day, the ‘Inspiration Day’.  What we do today?  Children step out to create their exam goal posters and their life plan.  Through this process they join the 3% of the people in the world who have structured their goals, who have a written plan for their life.  What difference this can make in their life?  Incredible difference!  Some you should be knowing what happened in the Yale University?

The Yale University Story:матраци

In the year 1953, in Yale University there was a survey done with the outgoing graduates. All the outgoing students have been asked the question:  What is it you want to do in your life? Out of all the students almost 97% of them said “I dont know” and the remaining 3% have created their life plan and they were very clear what they wanted in life.

20 years later the study continued to find out what those students do in their life.  They checked various factors and one of the factors what they were checking is ‘how much wealth’ those students have created in their life!   The 3% of students created three times more wealth than the remaining 97% of the students. Though it sounds only like 3 times actually it is more.  Assume the 97% together made 100 million $ and 3% made 300 million, in reality, the 100 million is shared by 97% of people and 300 million is shared by just 3% of people.  They were greatly successful in life.

Why?  Not because they got a better education or they are more lucky, just because they structured their goals in their life.  This story is what motivates me every time when I step in to share the strategies of creating their  goals!  Shortly I am going to be on stage to share with them the life changing strategies for  creating their GOALS and LIFE PLANS.

Today when I look back all the camps what we did in India for children, I just cant believe the path what I travelled.  It is hard to believe.  I never even in my dream thought I can train children or thought of doing it when we started training.  I thought that is the toughest task in the world!  I was greatly scared for the first time.  You what to know what more happened during our first camp?  Third day morning of the first camp was ‘Tsunami’  and I cant never forget that day.  4th day morning there was a rumor that one of the biggest political leader has passed away and the entire city was upside down.  There were lot of phone calls from parents are you going to postpone the camp? Can it not be done later?  etc.  We need to hold on and say, ‘Camp Will Happen!’  send your child please.

From there:
Today SK/ST camps are moments of joy, inspiration and happiness!  I love kids like crazy! I love every child who walk into the training hall!  Every camp has hundreds of miraculous moment! Children and parents belonging to 40 different nationalities go through the program and  we get this wonderful opportunity to empower more and more kids!

Though I know for life time I cant disassociate myself from training those angels,  when I decided to step of out doing Children camps in India, what is the emotion I am  going through right now?  Is it a Moment of

Joy?
Happiness?
Sadness?
Sorrow?
Incredible mix of emotions?

I know you will vote for the last choice – INCREDIBE MIX OF EMOTIONS.  Superbkids/Superbteens is one of my brain child, one program which made me understand how capable I am!, One Program which told me ‘Life Will Never Be the Same’.
Why this is the last camp for me in India?

You all know my fear!  How many more lives I will be able to empower in my life span? How many more people are there in this world who MUST experience OnlySuccess Training Program?  The gap is so high and it can no way come closer!

That is when I decided if I decide to do all by myself, I can train only little people, may be 15000-20000 in a year.  Always people come up to ask me ‘Vidya, why don’t you do this program in city or Town or village.  You name a city or town, there are people always wanted me to do this program. How to do it?  That too how to reach every part of our huge country?

We all know one thing:   “Anything is Possible, It is the question of right strategy!”

TRAIN AS MANY TRAINERS WHO CAN GIVE THE EXPERIENCE WHAT ME AND PRAVEEN CAN & CREATE AS MANY CENTERS AS POSSIBLE ALL CROSS THE COUNTRY!

So me training in India for the last the time is the first initiative.  It is a tough emotional decision but you all know once we control or conquer our emotions then only we experience GROWTH!

Me stepping out of training children in India also means, we have a strategy not to reach unlimited number of children in this Country who really deserve to be a CHAMPION in their life.

Just accept
Crib and cry
Shout back without any control
Or step out to say what they want firmly

I know you can easily understand the last reaction is the right one!  

You feel in control and you feel good by end of the process.  Assertiveness can do wonders in your life!  Being assertive is a skill and it is a gift.  

When someone steps on your toes what kind of reactions you will show?
1.  You say ‘Sorry’
2.  You again step on them with all your power (Tit for tat)
3.  Beat them badly
4.  Or that person says ’sorry’ to you and you tell them firmly ‘Be watchful next time’.

When someone steps on your toes and you say Sorry:

Some of you wonder will I ever do it.  I have seen so many times there are people who say sorry for somebody else stepping on their toes.  I mean in relationships, in business, in professional life and with family.  

Say for example in relationships, when you are waiting for someone for such a long time and finally they turn up much later than the time they have committed, you say sorry!  During the time when you were waiting for them what kind of emotions you go through?  You ask yourself ‘Is my time not valuable’, ‘By change if they have told me in advance I might have finished some more of my job and then come here’ etc.  You wanted to say ‘How come you came so late?’ but you never asked thinking the other person may feel hurt, but remember in the process you feel HURT.

In business, this is the biggest killer of speed.  People take you for granted and they feel it is only you!….  In partnerships!  They act as if they own the business and do make decision which you are suppose to make.  They assume you have to agree on the terms what they want and make you commit to so many things without they checking are you OK with those!  End of it you are being pushed into something which you know is not a Win-Win.  You keep nodding your head for their conditions because you dont want to hurt them or you are scared that may make the deal fall apart!  

I have come across business owners who cant pull the strings down and because of that they have been taken for granted.  When I was in sales, I used to have lot of prospects who are yet to be closed and they remain as prospects for a long time.  They are neither here not there. I cant say they will not give me business but I cant knock them out of my list.  My prospects list always used to look long but to that extent I never used to convert.  All these things changed till the time I met a guy by name ‘Shravan’ who was my boss some time.  He is a super expert in pulling down deals and he was so successful only because of that.  He always believed in ’shaking’ the customer.  You shake them with strict deadlines, offers which will become invalid in a month or two, time sensitive pricing, instant money down plan, etc etc.  All this to check how sure the deal is.  So that you dont spend time with people who dont have strategy to be your partner or customer.    

He thought me one of the greatest lessons in business:  ” In business you  must be assertive.  You must not feel bad to walk away from a deal to the next one.  Never hang on for something for so long because you are not only wasting your own time and effort but also your customer’s/ partner’s resources.”  This lesson changed lot of things for me.  My prospects list reduced to 20% form the time I turned assertive, but my closing percentage raised to 80%.  I was able to sell with pride instead of pleading for it.  Customers started respecting my time and effort.  Many of them started treating me as a consultant and not only a sales man!  A business man must know he never have a choice to give anything less to himself and to the business.  Never allow your customers and partners to take you for granted. 

I can list down times when I pleaded, agreed for all the demands of my customer, push all my internal teams so badly telling you guys cant understand what market wants etc. but still lost the deal straight for no reason except the customer turn suspicious about a deal which is too good to be true.

Also I can list down times when I have closed deals the way I wanted, with lot of pride, with a big smile in customers face!  I felt I am creating value for the customer and customer felt this is a great deal for me!  It was clear Win-Win deal which is just the outcome of the assertiveness of the sales guy.  In selling and even in building a partnership ASSERTIVENSSS makes a big difference for both parties.

With family, that is what creates the strength in minds of your family members, be it your kids or spouse.  You need to stand for your rights.  You need to say what you can do what you cant do.  That makes them stronger.  You can do all those things what your kids demand.  That makes them arrogant and adamant.  You can do every job of your spouse which makes them either ignorant or lazy.  

If one skill that can make a difference in your life is nothing else but standing for your own rights!
If you need to do good to your family, your boss, your customer or your partner, Be Assertive! 

Why? Is the world so cruel?  Is the life so painful?  Is the creations in the world are so negative?  Never!  I was started going deeper into myself to find out the answer.  NLP’s basic theory thought me if you need to find a solution for anything check if the answer is already available.  What I mean is check the strategy of those 5% of people who use some methodology to get that massive results what they want every day!  

I found some of the truths:  
1. They dont think they ‘WANT’ it, instead they feel “I DESERVE IT”
2. They dont go towards it, but they prepare themselves to “ATTRACT IT”
3. They are very clear about the OUTCOME.

Putting all these together is when I created “ATTRACT THE OUTCOME YOU DESERVE”.   It is about pulling out every bit of negativity and bringing in all possible positivity into your system.  It is a process and it is continuous.  You need to train yourselves mentally, emotionally and physically to achieve the same.  

Over a period the process is so much evolved and today it is so powerful to attract certain amazing stuff into your life.  I want you to be mentally ready now to face the experience.  It is going to be a special session where I expect every BTW graduate to come in.  Special for the graduates of BTW because I am going to throw down a challenge.

Collect the specially designed ‘I Deserve Card’ from OnlySuccess.  You can write two of the Outcomes what you strongly feel you deserve.  Ensure you share it with the people whom you care, your family and your super close friends.  Be at OnlySuccess latest by 6.45 am on 2nd August 2009 as sharp 7 I will be on stage.

Call 4215 5353 talk to Prema or Akila for a free shipment of the ‘I Deserve Card’ or walk in person to collect the same.  See you by 7 AM SHARP ON 2ND AUGUST!

I felt totally guided for seeing live the kind of transformations that were happening in the lives of children and their parents.    Definitely the credit goest to every coach and the ACoaches.   End of it I am reinforced again and again that “Every Child is Capable” and every parent has all the right to “Expect the Best out of the Child”.

I am going back to think how we started in Malaysia….When we wanted to start off  our programs there, definitely there were so many others doing lots of other programs.  There were also so many other children program!  

Many asked us this question:  How will you survive in such a tough market?  There are so many other programs which promise to make children super achievers!  The answer is only one:  ”Out of so many of them how many put their soul and heart?  May be few!  How many have strong model to sustain?  May be one or two! Which mean we are not competing with all of them just one or two of them or even non of them!  But always I know I truth “We compete with ourselves” and that is what pushes us to greater heights.  Never miss to read the recent email from one of the parents in Malaysia below: 

 Today we can say we are the #1 Training Company of Malaysia.  We train the maximum number of people and OnlySuccess do create the greatest impact in the lives of thousands of children and their parents. Thanks for the Greatest Guidance and thanks for the love and affection shown by every parent and child.

Believe me I am already ready for my next trip to KL.  Definitely excited to meet all our past participants and their parents as we have a special session this Saturday.  Will write more about those wonderful set of kids in the future!

There were people who came to rescue.  I along with all of them pushed the car to bring the wheels to the ground.  That moment I was literally screaming.   I did ‘nt have the courage to look inside the car, but I saw.    Some miracle must have happened.   I felt the touch of the greatest resources of this universe. It was MAGICAL,it was MIRACULOUS.  I saw all of them alive!  All of them in full!  Just cant believe it!   They all have been pulled out and believe me every one of us were alive and safe including the driver.  

I am reborn.  Even for small challenges and happenings I always used to feel there is a reason and purpose.  Now the biggest question: What is the purpose of our rebirth.   My wife told me ‘Your trainings and differences what you have created in others life have saved our children and Father’ .  

It incredible to believe,  I am back!  Reborn!  I got a new lease of life.   Is there a purpose for it?  Definitely.  

I promise I will empower more and more lives for rest of my whole life, what ever I have left out.  I understand every moment I going to live from now is a GIFT.  It has to be so meaningful and no way it can be spent on mean things.

I might have gone last night, but still I am alive to give this message to thousands of you.  I always feel the positive vibrations what all those people whom I know, whom I trained, touches me. It was around my family every moment to save all of them.  

I don’t know how to thank the SUPER POWER NATURE, and its design!
I don’t know how to thank every Born to Win Participant!
I don’t know how to thank so many kids and their parents of Superbkids and Superbteens!
I don’t know how to thank all those wonderful people with OnlySuccess!
I don’t know how to thank my kith and kin!
I don’t know how to thank every human I know!
I don’t know whom to thank.

But I know every creature  deserves a thanks!
Thanks for the Greatest GIFT –My life as it is!

So many times I have asked in trainings ‘Have you had a close to death experience?’   I can sympathize who ever shared with me their experience.  But I never heard somebody close to that final moment and back to life.  It is a miracle.  I definitely feel  deep from heart, what we always incantate:   

“I am the Voice,
I am the Force of Truth,
I believe I  Can,
I am Born to Win,
Step up!”

What is the Greatest Purpose?
I am /we all are alive after this event.   ‘What is that Greatest Purpose’ of my life?   I feel totally guided.

Whatever I do is several million times smaller than what ever I am destined for?  Is that the message given to me?  Why my life is designed this way?  

Today is a gift to me and my family.  Every moment I live is a new lease of life, is a gift given.  It is a new beginning…..
New beginning to touch more and more lives.